You Are Beautiful Because...
“You’re so beautiful.” “I love your hair.” “Oh my gosh you’re so tiny.” “You always have the cutest outfits.” “I love those shoes.” “How are you so dang pretty?”
I used to hear these comments a lot. My friends. My mom. My grandma. Strangers at the grocery store. Everywhere I looked people were complimenting me on how I looked and what I wore.
I’ve always loved fashion and style...
But somewhere between joyfully dressing myself before preschool and meticulously curling my hair perfectly everyday in high school, my style became my identity.
I felt worthy because I looked a certain way. I felt like enough because people liked my clothes & complimented the way I dressed.
Then I got sick. I gain 10 pounds. My face broke out in cystic acne (the kind where I had to go months without wearing makeup...) it come ways it was my worst nightmare come to life - dramatic, I know but that’s how my 18 year old self really felt. My jeans stopped fitting & I lost my ability to workout and stay fit like I always had before.
I was 18 years old and felt like a shell of myself.. a shell of the person I used to be.
It broke me down to my very core + made me dig deep to really find what matters most in life & where my true identity comes from… it ultimately became one of the most beautiful lessons I’ve ever learned.
It took me years of struggle + countless hours of prayer + way more tears than I’d like to admit to finally realize this one great truth about life:
I am worthy because God loves me.
I am beautiful because God loves me.
I am enough because God loves me.
Nothing less and nothing more. God doesn’t love me more when I weigh less, or curl my hair a certain way, or wear a cute outfit.
He doesn’t love me more simply because I can workout 5 times a week or have enough energy to go on date nights or hang out with family & friends regularly…
He doesn’t love me because I am worthy, beautiful, or enough.... His love is what makes me worthy, beautiful, and enough.
It’s not the people who gave me compliments all those years that made my style my identity. It’s not the clothes or the fashion or the hairstyles that made my style my identity.
It was simply getting lost in the idea that I somehow had to measure up to every kind thing anyone ever said about me in order to be worthy of their compliments in the first place that made me believe my style was my identity…
But then I realized, it wasn’t my clothes, my hair, my good grades, my gold star on the chore chart, or even my personality that make me worthy.
It’s not my money, my brain, my clean house, my perfectly behaved kids, or even my great sense of humor 😉 (note the part about “perfectly behaved kids” if you’re wondering what I mean about humor) that make me worthy.
I am worthy because God loves me.
Think about that today when you’re feeling like a total failure. Or a total fraud. Or like the worst mother on the planet. You are worthy because God loves you.
Nothing less & nothing more.
You are worthy because God loves you
You are beautiful because God loves you.
You are enough because God loves you.
Nothing less & nothing more. Just as you are right here, right now in this exact, imperfect moment.
If that’s not the purest, more selfless, unconditional kind of love you’ve ever known, then I don’t know what is. Let yourself be loved today. Give yourself a bit of grace & let God love you just.as.you.are.
xo, Adrianna
PS Your worth may not come from what you wear or how you dress, but you can express your intrinsic worth through what you wear and how you dress… and that’s exactly the kind of style I hope to inspire you to embrace each week as I share my weekly style tips! here on the blog! Effortlessly chic + authentically confident style that makes you know & feel deep in your soul like the beautiful woman God already knows you to be.
